Alone

[Skandar's Girl]

I know that jesus cares and all but sometimes, you see i have moved to so many different places and it feels like there is no one that cares about me i am soo alone and ofcourse i have millions of friends it's just that i pray and nothing ever becomes better it's just that i am a follower and i have always dreamed of being a leader and so i was hoping i could get advice from all the leaders out there and hopfully i won't feel so left out of things anymore. And when i try to post something with this no one ever responds and im at a christian place where no one should feel left out see no one is responding or even viewing it

[Sharlene]

God loves you Skandar's Girl!!! I'm sure there are tons of ppl out there in the world who care about you. I don't even know you, but I care about you and feel sorry that you feel that way. When life pulls you down you gotta hold your head up a little higher! Just keep your chin up, smile lots, and be a good friend!
well, don't know what else to say, sorry, i wish I could think of better things to encourage you, but I can't right now. ttyl!

[onlymystory]

2 things. 1st Skandars girl, I'd like to share my favorite verse with you.
Romans 11:34 In one way or another, God allows us all to experience what it is like to be on the outside so he can personally open the door and welcome us back in.

And the second thing, I'm very much a take charge kind of person. I'd love to help you figure out ways to be more assertive and a leader. If you're not comfortable on here, pm me and maybe we can work through a few ideas that could help you.

[Gibby]

Jesus taught that to be a true leader, you have to be a servant...


Matthew 10:24-25

24"A student is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master. 25It is enough for the student to be like his teacher, and the servant like his master. If the head of the house has been called Beelzebub,[a (http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=47&chapter=10&verse=23&end_verse=25&version=31&context=context#fen-NIV-23443a)] how much more the members of his household!

John 13:4-5

4so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist. 5After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples' feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him.

Skandar girl, to be a leader, you have to serve. Give yourself to others in the name of Christ. You can't push someone to the top of the mountain without getting a little closer there yourself! http://www.narniafans.com/forum/images/icons/icon12.gif

[Inklet]

I know you were exaggerating when you said you had millions of friends, but I'm betting you have a lot, and that's a good sign. You're friendly! I have a thought, though, and I may be wrong, but do you think you might be less lonely if you had fewer friends? Just a few you could really talk to?

It must be very hard to move all the time. I know if I had grown up not knowing if I'd be in the same place the next year I would have had a hard time making good friends because I wouldn't have wanted to deal with the hurt of losing them.

Also, about being a leader, I notice that most of the people who answered your poll think of themselves as leaders. Want to know what I think? I'll bet we all had a different kind of leadership in mind when we answered that question. There are so many different ways of being a leader. One way would be to become the most popular kid in your school. At the other end of the spectrum would be to lead by example; doing what you know is right and encouraging others when they do the same. Or you could become really good at something and then people would look to you for help.

What kind of leader do you mean?

[Narborg]

I voted in between, because it dependes on the situation

[glamel]

leader and follower actually go hand in hand, to be an effective leader you must know how to be a follower.
A leader is a person who has been a follower.
A follower must have confidence in the leader he/she is following. It is useless for a leader to give direction if no one follows. I do not believe that one can be a leader if he/she do not know where they are going.
Followers must see the ability of the leaders who will guide them and take them to the right destination and with clear objectives.
Followers must not only follow but to participate and communicate with the leaders, that is to ask, listen, learn and what is important is they must be willing to be taught.

[inkspot]

Hey, Skandar's Girl. I just saw your Thread. I voted "in between" cuz sometimes I lead and sometimes I follow ... I think it must be so for everyone? Who could always be the leader? And Gibby made the best point for Christians: we are to be servants first of all, then the last shall be first.

Let me add my good thoughts to the others: because you are a sister in Christ, I care about you! And I am going to be praying for you. It is tough to move to a new town and make new friends, but think about the disciples and believers in the early church: not only did they have to move to new cities, they were usually chased out of their old cities by people who did not like their faith and wanted to do away with them! They trusted Jesus to guide them to new places, and open foors for them to meet people and share the good news ... Jesus will be guiding you, too. Don't fear.

I can't give you any leadership tips. I find I can lead only in a subject that I know very well, so that the expertise I bring to it naturally makes others respect my opinion. Perhaps there is a particular thing you are an expert on? You could lead in that area, maybe? Let me know how it goes for you!

[Skandar's Girl]

thank you all soo much it has really helped but i will be pming some of you for a discussion

[Lady Larien]

i voted in between because i follow but i lead as well. i think that all of us follow someone and we all have people that we are leading. Skandar's Girl you may pm me anytime all though my advice might not be the best i can at least be there for you when you need a friend to talk to

[GrayCloak]

Hey Skandar's Girl, I just came back to the site today was was struck by your thread.

First of all, let me say that I can understand feeling as if you're alone. I've been moving since I was two, and sometimes I've just been so lonely that I've wanted to cry myself hoarse.

But always remember:

[I] In You, Oh Lord, I put my trust;...for you are my hope, O Lord God; You are my trust from my youth.
By You have I been upheld from birth; You are He who took me out of my mother's womb. My praise shall be continually of You...' Psalm 71:1 5 and 6.

Sometimes I know it feels like God can be so far away (I went through a time not long ago when I felt as if my prayers would always go unheeded) but remember His goodness and mercy, and put your faith in God, and you can NEVER be let down. He knows what He's doing. And you're never alone when you're with Him and his followers. :)

As to being a leader - there have already been some GREAT quotes by the folks above - being a servant first is important. I don't really think of myself as a leader, but I hope by God's grace to be a servant.

God bless Skandar's Girl, I'm always open to talk by my PM.

~Gray

[inkspot]

Hey, GrayCloak! Welcome back ... missed your insightful comments and hope you are well. What a sweetie you are.

[Maiden of the woods]

im a in between person, I do abit of leading and following lol