advice sought

[gair]

OK I'm faily sure this post should go here, as it could go philosophical. (Preferably after my quandry has been answered)

I have the social skills of a newt. If it is an unfamiliar circumstance I have absolutely no idea what to say.

THis is an unfamiliar circumstance. I would like some advice about what to say.

My housemate's brother has asked me out .Yes I am fairly galloping through the men =P - teh second asking out in less than a year. But this one isn't a total *expletive of choice* (there is no nice way of putting it.I hate him cos I hate me for having been so unbelivably stupid in agreeing to go out with him -and he only wanted to sleep with me -which I din't. I'm only so stupid).

Anyway my housemate's brother has asked me out. I really really like this guy. It feels like my stomach is doing backflips when I talk to him and like I'm flying. Plus he is clever and funny and really really sweet. And fourteen months younger than me.

I feel I probably should mention something to my housemate. I'm not sure how though. So any advice would be appreciated. A lot. Preferably before next weekend as Ed is coming down to see me and I think a verbal warning is only fair.

Oh plus my housemate had/has a thing for me. Which I didn';t realise until it was pointed out a couple of days ago to me by my friend.

Basically there is some of me that is la la la I'm so happy life is good I like Ed and Ed likes me, and then there is another bit that is um you do realise that Ed is your housemate's little brother, might this get awkward, might he feel a bit awkward, you shoudl probably say something but he probably has already noticed as he is not thick, but you still should say something anyway, the question is what how and when.

OK slightly rambling but I hope someone can help me.
Thanks.

[loverble]

Well. I hope that this all goes smoothly for you.

In the advice sence - The best thing to do is to just tell your housemate. It's only fair he hears it from you and not his brother or anyone else. Becuse you are the one living with him. But I have no idear how. Everyone always say that they are waiting for the right moment. But there isun't really a right time or way of doing it... Sorry for my uselessness in that sence.

[Mrs Gil-Galad Took]

The same as I told you on your other topic; be honest. Go to him and tell him. Tell him his brother asked you out and you said yes. Tell him you want to tell him before his brother or someone else does. And if he asks if you like his brother be honest as well. You can't find a way different than being honest. Don't wait but tell him. The longer you wait the more difficult it will get

[Copperfox]

Yes, you MUST tell your housemate, like, before you even finish reading this post. The LAST thing you need is him feeling as if you somehow tricked and betrayed him on purpose.

[theorangejello]

i would tell him
that's the best thing to do..

[gair]

I'm planning on telling my housemate when I see him - he's at rugby training atm.
Just not sure how to best phrase it.

this is so sily i don't know what to say.

But thankyou everyone for being supportive and nice

[Driad54]

I would advise having a twix moment.

the answer should come soon afterwards..

:D

[Copperfox]

You might begin with something like this: "You never know for certain what feelings other people have, until they tell you. I've just been told something I wasn't expecting..."

[BarbarianKing]

How about this:

*smile* "Hey, your brother Ed asked me out and I said yes. I might be coming home late next (day of the week). Ok? Thanks!.

Of course getting mixed up like that is tricky. Two things may happen.
He will either be happy for you and his brother, or he will be brokenhearted and angry at both. If the first thing happen, then that's cool. If, however the second thing happens, that might start family problems and you could end up losing one or the other.

Of course, it's not your fault how he reacts, you have no control of his reactions.
I am just telling you this to help you prepare in case your housemate does not take this with grace.

[~Lava~]

I kind of think that BK's short and sweet message is the way to go. If he has a problem with that and tells you that he likes you too, the best way to answer would be that you had no way of knowing that this was so.

[Driad54]

No one likes the Twix moment? alright, it was a poor joke.. :(

[Celebrion Seregon]

I laughed, if that helps.


I'd say TELL HIM. If not, it just gets MESSY. And no one likes to do the mopping.